I dimly remember my high school graduation, but two people and their stories stand out to me: The valedictorian of the class was a nerdy, bookish guy who went to an Ivy League school and majored in science but is lost (to me, anyway) in obscurity. But our class president, who was charming and friendly to everyone, was elected to state senate years later. My point is this: Both my personal experience and scientific research show that emotional/social intelligence, or the ability to positively manage your own emotions and relationships with others, is more important to your professional and personal success than is your intellectual intelligence. Emotional/social intelligence is the biggest predictor of performance in the workplace.
That makes sense. People who can identify and regulate their own emotions, can empathize with others and manage social relationships to positive outcome are going to get along better with others, be better liked and be considered a “people person” who is more likely to excel at management.
Emotional intelligence can be separated into four quadrants of skills that looks like this:
Notice that the top two quadrants pertain to your own emotions, and the bottom two have to do with your awareness of others. The reason that the arrows point away from the first quadrant is that the strength of your Self-Awareness is foundational and affects your abilities in all other areas. Think of it this way: if you can’t recognize and manage your own feelings, how can you recognize them in others?
Dr. Daniel Goleman popularized the concepts of emotional intelligence in the mid-1990’s with his seminal book, Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ (1994). For leaders, I prefer his subsequent book, co-authored with Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee, called Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence (2002), which documents how a leader’s emotional intelligence sets the tone for the rest of the team. This best seller can be a bit nerdy for some, with its academic citations and neuroscientific arguments. (I’m a little nerdy, so I loved reading this book!) It is definitely not a quick read. For that reason, in our group coaching we will read Emotional Intelligence 2.0 (2003) by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, which provides good background EQ information and also contains strategies to help with the four quadrants of EQ as depicted above.
Goleman offers several competencies that a highly emotionally intelligent leader should possess. We will discuss these in our group coaching meetings, so it is important that you know a little about them.
Leadership question: How often can you, as a leader, lose your temper? You may think that losing your temper is never a good thing, or you may think that losing your temper as a viable motivational act. Neither is ideal: As an executive coach, I advise losing your temper once a year for optimal impact. If you do it more often, you become a bully. Losing your temper when it really matters makes a huge impression on those around you when it is an unusual occurrence.
These three strategies, if focused on, will add rocket fuel to your emotional intelligence and increase your leadership effectiveness.
I have been a corporate and certification trainer for several decades. I love to train! I enjoy seeing people understand something new, seeing their faces light up when they make a new connection, and presenting new and different ways of thinking. These are all the benefits of training, and I did a heck of a lot of that for over twenty years.
Then I became disillusioned with all the training that I did. My attitude changed when I was engaged to train about 250 Information Technology (IT) professionals on excellent customer service skills to help the organization boost its customer loyalty ratings. I learned during the first two hours of the first class I taught that a lack of customer service skills on the part of these dedicated, smart and resourceful IT professionals was not the problem. The real problem was the toxic culture that leaders had embedded due to their mean-spirited and commanding leadership style. The IT professionals were routinely yelled at, belittled and abused by upper managers. They were often left out of important decisions affecting their work hours and environment. They were held to impossible deadlines and not provided adequate resources to meet them. I concluded at the end of that two-hour class session that the executives of this organization desperately needed to have leadership skills training and one-on-one coaching to repair the damage done to the organization’s culture. Only then could they create a new culture of great customer service.
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For some, navigating an organization’s culture can be like whitewater rafting
– thrilling but dangerous. As I think back on all the clients I’ve coached over
my career, many of them needed help understanding and fitting into their
On the other hand, others discovered that the culture of their current position wasn’t
in alignment with their personal values and decided to leave that company entirely,
looking for a better fit. Our overall goal and duty as coaches is to help avoid this latter
problem, enabling clients to survive and thrive in their organization’s culture.
Do your employees experience Happy Mondays or do they dread the beginning of the workweek? Work can be challenging, fulfilling, and mostly fun, if organizational leaders have created a vibrant company culture. A vibrant culture is created when leaders identify a purpose higher than just making money and connect their team members’ values to the work they do. A toxic or defensive culture is created when you treat people with disrespect, tolerate negative behaviors, act distrustfully and/or hold people to extremely high standards without giving them the resources to attain them.
As I think back on my work career, there have been times when I dreaded and times when I was excited to go to work on Monday mornings. My best work experiences have always been at companies where I felt appreciated, stimulated, held accountable to high standards of performance while given the resources to achieve them and where I felt like we were doing something to make the world a better place.
Do you have a toxic company culture? Here are five signs to look for along with remedies for each situation:
Herb Kelleher, Southwest Airlines’ co-founder and Chairman Emeritus, said it best: “The business of business is people.” This belief is the basis of Southwest’s exemplary culture. Even though the company honors and values all people involved in its business - employees, customers, supplier/vendors and shareholders - the company puts its employees first. Southwest Airlines recognizes that treating its employees well creates happy customers. That equation is proven by the company’s outstanding business results, which include:
What other US airline can boast these same results?
I was fortunate to have been invited to attend Southwest Airlines' "Culture Connection" in December 2017 in Dallas, Texas. It was a half-day event that showcased the company’s methods of strengthening, reinforcing, and maintaining its strongly positive culture. I applaud Southwest Airlines for offering this twice-yearly “peek under the covers” of their culture at no cost to the attendees. In contrast, Zappos and Disney charge fees to attend similar events they host.
Here are five lessons learned from Southwest’s Culture Connection day:
Right now is a great time to reflect on the year that is passing and plan for 2018. I hope you can use this planning questionnaire either individually or with your team to reflect and look forward to a great 2018.
Because only 15% of CEOs today are satisfied with their company culture, one of your goals for 2018 should be to improve your company culture. Enjoy!
If you like this company culture aid, you might also be interested in our Happy Mondays Club, an online learning community that meets in webinar format twice monthly and provides templates, checklists, how-to instructions and reports that you can use to grow a vibrant company culture! Please visit www.happymondaysclub.com for more information!
Employees often groan when their managers ask them to create individual goals for the coming year. Some people think it’s just one more meaningless exercise to go through, like the flavor of the month, which will be forgotten in 30 days. Or perhaps it conjures negative reactions to making New Year’s resolutions – like losing 10 lbs by March 1. You’re all excited at the start, but by the end of January, you’re back to eating chocolate cake at lunch.
It doesn’t have to be that way. You can encourage team members to make personal goals at work that are fun to create, meaningful and lasting. You can start a company ritual of creating photomaps.
I remember the day my husband came home from work ecstatically happy because his boss of seven years told him “Good job!” for the first time – ever. I was happy that he received recognition in front of his co-workers. At the same time, I realized that seven years is too long to go without recognition or thanks for a job well done. My husband’s experience is all too common in the workplace, where 70% of workers report they receive no praise or appreciation1.
Thanksgiving, which is a major U.S. holiday in November, is a time to practice gratitude. Although it is mainly a family holiday, Thanksgiving is the perfect time to express appreciation to your team at work. Did you realize that each of your co-workers have particular preferences for how to give and receive gratitude? We each have a preferred language of appreciation, according to Gary Chapman and Paul White, authors of The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace.
Appreciation, or expressing gratitude, to employees and co-workers is vital to growing a vibrant company culture. Who doesn’t want to be thanked for doing a good job? Surprisingly, each individual on your team desires to be thanked in a preferred way or “language” of receiving appreciation. Using a non-preferred method of appreciation will not be impactful, and you’ll wonder why. Just like people have different personality types, so do they have appreciation preferences.
What are the different languages of appreciation?
Harvey Weinstein at The Weinstein Companies. Roy Price at Amazon Studios. Travis Kalanick at Uber. These executives have all lost their positions recently due to revelations of their abuse of power and sexual harassment of women. Besides the outrage about these men’s behaviors – and yes, they need to be held responsible for their abusive actions – the company cultures that tolerated them also need to be questioned. At Uber, a former attorney general’s law firm was hired to audit the culture of the organization and recommend changes. The lesson for all companies is to examine your culture to ensure it is one of accountability, where everyone is held to the same high standards.
Does your company culture tolerate Harvey Weinstein behavior – or brilliant jerks of either gender? How will you know if your people are afraid to report sexual harassment, abuses of power or leadership by intimidation? How will you act if you discover an abuse of power in your organization? Leaders of companies that aspire to be exemplars of compassionate, values-driven businesses would be wise to consider these questions.
Here are steps to make your culture Harvey Weinstein-proof:
How would you like to arrive at your computer at 8:00 in the morning and have only 5 very important emails in your inbox? This seems far-fetched in today’s world of communication overload, but there are ways to make your day less stressful and more productive by managing your Outlook inbox efficiently. This article will help you get started on the concepts and email behaviors that you and your team can adopt to improve communications in your office. At the end of this article, there are links to technical articles with step-by- step instructions on how to implement these concepts in Outlook.
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